Our homestudy was approved today and placed in our hands!!! Yay!! We were then able to send in our Immigration Application. This step will probably be one of the longest steps of our timeline to complete. Right now, it is currently taking about 60 days for approval. It would be wonderful to see this process speed up, but processes don’t usually speed up in the “adoption world”. Things are moving along, though, and we are really hoping to travel in late summer to bring our little guy home! We will have a better idea of the timeframe for travel as we move along.
When we brought Ladybug home in January last year, we knew we were finished growing our family. We told everyone that we were done! We quickly settled into our new family life and enjoyed the idea of no longer being stuck in a waiting pattern. We watched friends travel and shared with other friends as they prepared to start their next journeys for new children. All the time, we still felt that we were done. I will admit that I did say at times that if we ever adopted again, we would adopt a boy, but then I would quickly say that we were DONE.
In late November/early December we heard that people who had adopted in the past year could reuse their dossier to adopt from China again. This was exciting to hear, but we still didn’t feel as if it was meant for us. Then one day while I was sitting in the doctor’s office with Dragonfly, I recieved an email on my phone from our agency. They talked about the latest Waiting Child List and I decided to just take a look at it. I saw a little boy on there and asked to look at his file. In the end, that child’s file was locked by another family. Our agency, though, sent us another file. I could say the rest is history……. but then I wouldn’t tell the whole story. I would be leaving out the part about spending the next two weeks, saying maybe, saying yes, saying no, praying, deliberating, having family meetings and late night talks. There was something about this little boy. I knew we were done, but I had this STRONG feeling that he was our son. It was such a strange and emotional place to be in. The big kids were 100% convinced that he was their new little brother. Jeff and I just needed to be sure that we were making the right decision by bringing home another child to our already large family. Was there enough of us to go around? We waited to the last second to make the decision and it honestly came down to ….. why wouldn’t we? There’s enough love around here for one more and he’s our son. Oh, and apparently God had other plans.
By the way, after this we are done. Really.
Today we celebrated the Lunar New Year which is called Tet in Vietnam and Chinese New Year in China. We decorated the house several days ago with red paper lanterns and other hanging paper decorations. We made rabbit crafts for the year of the rabbit and went out to eat tonight to celebrate. The girls like dressing up in their traditional outfits, but then they like dressing up in just about anything these days.
We sent a package to China as soon as we were allowed to do so. Hopefully our guy received it sometime around his birthday. Because of Chinese New Year, the mail may be slower than usual. We sent a photo album with our pictures and Chinese symbols telling who we were, socks, a toothbrush, snacks, toy cars, play cell phone and a doodle board. Dragonfly was so excited to help mail the box and even carried it through the post office!
I will admit that today was much harder than I thought it was going to be. As the day went on, I felt so much sadness at the thought of not having our son here with us on his special day. He has had four birthdays now without a forever family. That just isn’t fair. And even though he has a new family, we couldn’t be with him.
Today is a bittersweet day. Our little guy is celebrating his fourth birthday in China without us. I wish so badly that he were here with us opening presents and blowing out candles and chasing balloons around the house. But he isn’t and we will have to wait a while longer before we meet him. So, we are going to celebrate him today and hope that he is celebrating in China. Tonight we will have cake and ice cream and sing Happy Birthday and I am sure
someone Dragonfly will blow out the candles for him. I can take comfort, though, in the fact that this will be the VERY LAST birthday he will celebrate without his forever family!!!
We received new updated pictures and measurements from our wonderful agency. He is already changing so much! The pictures were just taken last week so they are very recent. Although he and Dragonfly are six months apart, they are very close in size. He weighs one pound more than her and is two inches taller than her.